#76 - Why Great Teams, Businesses, and Relationships Collapse (The Regressive Cycle)

Episode #76 - Why Great Teams, Businesses, and Relationships Collapse (The Regressive Cycle)

Let’s Talk About Why People Fail… Over and Over Again.

Have you ever seen a team that starts off strong, but the second things get tough, they fall apart?
Or a business that’s killing it one day, and then BOOM—suddenly, it’s struggling to survive?
Maybe it’s a relationship—started with passion, love, energy… but now? Nothing. Just empty.

This isn’t random. There’s a pattern. A cycle.

And if you don’t break it, it’ll break you.

It’s called The Regressive Cycle. It’s the reason:
✔️ Teams collapse
✔️ Businesses fail
✔️ Marriages end in divorce
✔️ Talent goes to waste

Let’s break it down.

Step 1: The Reptilian Reaction (Your Trigger)

You know that moment when something sets you off?
Could be a look.
A tone of voice.
A single word.
BOOM—you’re triggered.

You go full fight, flight, or freeze mode. You’re not thinking. You’re reacting.

Someone calls you out—you snap back.
A teammate makes a mistake—you shut down.
Your spouse says something the wrong way—you get defensive.

And just like that, the downward spiral begins.

Step 2: Trust, Safety, and Respect Go Out the Window

Once that trigger hits, trust starts slipping.
The team stops trusting the leader.
The business loses faith in its direction.
The relationship feels unsafe—emotionally, mentally, even physically.

And without trust? Game over. You can’t lead a team, a business, or a family if people don’t feel safe.

Step 3: You Start Playing It Safe (Self-Protect Mode)

Now you’re hesitating.
Now you’re holding back.

A receiver stops running full-speed because he doesn’t trust the ball will come.
A business owner pulls back on risks instead of attacking the market.
A husband stays quiet instead of talking through an issue.

You’re protecting yourself instead of going all-in.
And that’s when the real damage starts.

Step 4: Bare Minimum Effort and Breakdowns

Now, you’re still showing up—but you’re not really there.

In sports? The effort is just enough to say you tried.
In business? You clock in, you do the work, but there’s no fire.
In relationships? The passion, the romance, the energy—it’s all gone.

You think about doing something special—buying the flowers, sending the text, making the move—but you don’t.
Why? Because you’re stuck in the cycle.

And now…

Step 5: Mediocre Results and Rock-Bottom Morale

Now the scoreboard tells the story.

The team? Losing.
The business? No growth, no wins.
The relationship? Just two people existing under the same roof.

Confidence? Gone.
Passion? Dead.
You’re physically still here but in your head? It’s already over.

Step 6: You QUIT.

And now, the cycle does what it was designed to do—it breaks you.

The athlete loses their career because they got stuck in their own head.
The business owner shuts down instead of adjusting.
The relationship ends, even when love is still there.

Not because of a lack of talent.
Not because there weren’t enough customers.
Not because there wasn’t love in the marriage.

People quit because they don’t see another option.

But Here’s the Thing… You DO Have Another Option.

Do you want to know what separates the ones who quit from the ones who dominate?

They don’t stay in The Regressive Cycle.

They SHIFT:
💥 From reaction to response.
💥 From hesitation to execution.
💥 From anger and resentment back to LOVE!

And that’s exactly what we’re diving into in the next episode—Episode #77: The Progressive Cycle.
How to flip the switch, take control, and turn setbacks into opportunities.

So don’t miss it!
Because if you’re stuck in this cycle, you’ve got two choices:
Break the cycle… or it’s gonna break you.

📥 Download the Regressive Cycle Worksheet.

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