The difference between the Man that Struggles and the Man that THRIVES after divorce.

This weekend I posted a question in a Divorced Men’s Group. The question was “What’s the difference between the Man that Struggles and the Man that THRIVES after divorce?” 

Here are the top answers:

Live for you!


• Start with forgiveness.
• Remember what makes you happy, and do it.
• Start living for yourself (it’s ok to be selfish)
• Since I’ve really focused on my own healing and loving myself, I’ve been a lot happier.

Quit looking back:

• Move on and move forward.
• Quit feeling sorry for myself.
• No one cares. Get better or get bitter.
• Work on yourself, and keep moving forward.
• Our kid(s) need us. Even if some don't understand.

Focus & Mindset 

• You can’t change the circumstances however you can always change your story around the circumstances. I chose happiness and new beginnings.
• Embrace acceptance
• Determination over sorrow 

Move On!

• Letting go of blame allows you to move on.

Have a Support System

• Never be in a recovery situation alone. Morale, spiritual (if applicable), and emotional support are critical.
• Don't go at divorce alone!
• Hire a Mentor!